refining my style choices
The older I get the more I subscribe to the philosophy that, in life, there are no mistakes and wrong decisions, just lessons learned and experience gained. And the same applies to my style choices over the years!
It’s all part of the journey, just like blogging itself. When I look back at outfit posts from the early days, I cringe at the clothes, the pictures and sometimes even the words.
God knows my style has seen some bizarre incarnations since I began to record some of those looks here. Discovering this amazing online world and finding myself constantly under the influence of other blogs, Pinterest and Instagram, I was like a kid in a candy store with a really bad case of style sweet tooth. I would run from virtual jar to jar, picking at random, gorging on trend after trend, sometimes with very little restraint.
The phrases “Ooh I could wear that!”, “I NEED that bright pink jacket NOW!” and “YES! Daylight sequins make me so happy!” are all responsible for more than my fair share of outfits that I tracked down, loved intently and then promptly discarded. Now I’m unsure if I’m still in the candy store or looking at a list of ex-boyfriends…
Do I regret any of my style choices? Not one iota! Through the process of taking photographs for the blog and dissecting look after look, I slowly learned what I loved and what I kept coming back to again and again.
Continuous repetition of something means you eventually sit up and take notice of your inner conversation. When you return to writing about the same things over and over, you begin to realise that you’re actually trying to get an important point across to yourself *looks at the growing pile of cashmere sweaters in my wardrobe*.
Monochrome, simple shapes, unusual detail and yes, cashmere – those are the style components to be treasured, nurtured and loved forever. The cheap thrill, flighty quick fixes no longer hold the same appeal…there go those exes again.
I think the turning point came whilst writing the Style Definition Mission post and eventually, the end result in defining what I wanted my style to look like on paper.
All sweet shop and ex-boyfriend comparisons aside, here’s a few things I’ve learnt along the way…
recognise the worth of the investment buy
In the beginning, I would preach for hours (and blog posts) on end about the investment buy but rarely practice it myself. But you are worth it, I am worth it, therefore the investment is worth it!
When it comes to cashmere, a great pair of sunnies from a coveted label or a classic bag that has my name written all over it are things I’ve never regretted shelling out my hard earned cash for and neither should you. And the same goes for beauty buys too.
These are the things that bring joy when you get them right and always help to #ElevateTheEveryday when you pull them out of your closet.
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grey goes with everything!
It truly does and I don’t know why I denied myself my obsessive love of grey for so long.
You can add colour to it if you wish or keep it tonal with a whole host of monochrome pieces. Either way it looks expensive, is flattering to most skin tones, has more than a few style blogs named after it *looks at Happily Grey and Grey Layers* and makes getting dressed easy.
And it’s even better when it’s grey AND cashmere! The beautiful Italian cashmere shawl pictured in this post is from my friend Jennie’s new venture. Sign up here at Lois Avery to find out more!
SHOP GREAT GREYS!
have good jeans
Great jeans are REALLY important – possibly more important than you think.
Over the years I’ve come to realise that they form the backbone of a solid wardrobe and are the perfect partner to both trend pieces and classic style staples. If I hadn’t been blogging, I would never have met Donna Ida and discovered that I too could become a bit of jean addict!
Really good investment staples are a necessity but so are the more trend led styles from the high street.
When you combine the brilliant investment basics (skinnies, a classic Boyfriend cut and an ankle grazing cropped pair) with a few budget buys (ripped knees, fringed hems, stepped hems, frayed hems etc etc), you have the best denim resource in your own wardrobe upon which to build so many great looks. I really like Topshop for great value trend jeans.
SHOP GOOD JEANS
flat shoes are your friend
Flat shoes and boots have taken over my wardrobe. With the exception of the odd taxi shoe or a few block heels, blogging has taught me flats are where its at for the most part.
Gone are my days of changing into a pair of heels in a shop doorway before slipping into a blogging event. Although I have been known to still do this when the occasion and outfit demands it – generally to much bemusement from passers by.
Oh and trainers and sneakers now go with a lot more than I thought they used to.
SHOP FABULOUS FLATS
Whilst I can attribute some of my earlier sartorial experiments (and failings) to the influence of other influencers, don’t shy away from the Me Too factor if you’re still working out your style.
And funnily enough, attending a Red Magazine event was quite a pivotal moment too. Hearing The White Company founder Chrissie Rucker talk about her love of the simple yet great basics and celebrating the fact that everything in her wardrobe was either white, black or grey, was a “light dawns on marble head” moment for me. I mean… if it works for Chrissie…
💻 If you’re still looking to pin down or further refine your style, these blogs might help:
This article on The Everygirl is great too! 💻
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📷 Images taken using my Olympus OM-D E-M10 II camera with a 45mm lens. 📷